Is Your Life Worthy?

"I am happy enough. I don't expect much. I don't give much. I don't get much. I am happy enough." ~ Waitress (2007)

A woman carries a baby deep in her womb for the better part of a year; endures morning and/or afternoon nausea; swollen feet; stretch marks; the discomfort of carting around a belly the size of a hot air balloon;  and the knowledge that after the happy event her body will probably not bounce back to what is was.

Then, if all that wasn’t enough, with one foot in the grave, she does hard, manual labor to push a football-sized baby through an opening smaller than the size of a cherry into Life.


And if she is brave enough to breast feed, well, do you have any idea how much cracked nipples hurt when those sweet, tiny lips take hold?!


Now, if we were a lucky baby, our mother continued to nurture us in a million in little ways – physically, emotionally, spiritually, and financially — for 18 years (minimum) as any loving mother does.


Mm, in light of all that a human mother must endure to gift life, doesn’t the attitude quoted above seem decidedly sorrowful and unworthy?!

Please, say yes.

Well, as for me, I expected too much.

Or is it more commonsensical to expect nothing from and give little to Life and to others?

I gave too much.

I still want to be more than happy — I still want to be filled with as much hope as I can stand.

Here’s my truth: My expectations are largely disappointments and I got so much less than I gave and I have to do battle with Life every single day to keep my grasp on just a sliver of hope.

But, the truth is, while I totally understand being bone weary of it all — because I am — I do not want to surrender to “I’m happy enough.” Why? Because this attitude is simply unworthy!

Other observations you might enjoy: Happy Mother’s Day and Who’s My Sweetie?

4 thoughts on “Is Your Life Worthy?

  1. Thanks for your attitude, Janine, and for your bravery. The Spanx founder has a book out and the opening line is “Life does not come with a manual, but thank goodness it comes with a mother.”

  2. I do not believe in being happy enough. There are periods of time when we are happy and those times when sadness enters our life. I do expect common decency from family and friends, so yes, I do expect much.

    To quote The Good Book: It is always better to give than to receive. In other words, give of yourself without expecting anything in return. Just knowing that you make someone happy also contributes to your happiness.

    During our lifetime we experience so much pain and suffering, and yet we continue to cling to this life with hope and expectation that tomorrow will be better and that we ourselves will bring more happiness to those we come in contact with.

    1. Well, The Good Book has a point, but only up to this point: That approach only works if the great majority of us behave in this way. What happens when you live in a world where most of us were apparently raised in a barn and think the sun shines out of area we use to sit on? Then, givers have to set boundaries, because takers never do!

      And yes, it is fascinating that in light of life’s harsh realities, we still cling!

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