When it comes to how we like to spend our time, most of us fall clearly into one of two categories:
- Those who be
- Those who do
Being people are those who savor spending their time unstructured, reading, pondering, gazing at the stars. They enjoy merely being without excessive physical effort and sweat.
Doing people, on the other hand, are those whose lives are defined by the activities — usually stimulating and/or physical and often sweaty — that they do.
Who is right? Who is wrong?
Do you expect someone you love to “compromise” and engage in activities that makes them unhappy, even miserable, as the price of being in a relationship with you?
And while Ryan is correct that most relationships of opposites eventually fail under the “burden” of their differences, I don’t think repulsion is necessarily inevitable in this matter.
Here’s the thing.
If we like or love another person’s essence and if we can allow another the freedom to be or to do as is their nature without demanding painful compromises and be satisfied with enjoying them during our in between times, an uncommonly good relationship may just be the happy result.