What Will Be Your “Defense?!”

What will be your "defense?!"

21 “Not everyone who says to me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ will enter the kingdom of heaven, but only the one who does the will of my Father who is in heaven. 22 Many will say to me on that day, ‘Lord, Lord, did we not prophesy in your name and in your name drive out demons and in your name perform many …


Did You Reject the Life Script of “Normal?”

Happy Mother's Day 2021

I did. If you did too, are you asking these same questions?

I can’t remember ever wanting to be “normal.”

Most days, I’m just fine with my life choices that rejected the life script of “normal.” But as I age, I find myself wondering more and more about the choices I made in my youth and the value of the script of “normal” and the price of saying no to it so long ago.


What Makes a Good Feminist?

Bad Femnism

Because certain “insults” against feminism seem dumb

First, let me be clear: I don’t consider myself a feminist.

In fact, I try my darnedest to avoid labels whenever I can. But one label I do choose for myself is that of truth-teller — I tell the truth. And I tell the truth regardless of whether I belong to a particular collective or not. In other words, just because I’m Black doesn’t mean I don’t recognize how mentally ill many Black folks are as a result of living under the White boot of systemic racism. And just because I’m a woman doesn’t mean I will give women a free pass to do all sort of ridiculous things.


Why Do Successful, Rich Women Consent to be Objectified?

Women - Sexual - Objectification

As long as we choose to objectify ourselves, human male “pigs” will win and women will continue to be victimized

A lot of men suck.

And let me be absolutely clear on this point: I don’t give three rats’ behinds if a woman is naked in front of a man. If she hints at or says NO, it’s criminal for any man to victimize her sexually.  Full stop.

But in 2021, are men the only ones who sexually objectify women? I don’t think so.